Summer is almost over, school for my youngest starts next week. I'll finally have my mornings to myself again.
My divorce is not any closer to being final... I'll be looking into ways to get it finalized and get the jerk to fork out some of the money he owes me! He is paying child support now.. at least he has paid a couple of months worth so far. I need to watch the mail for the guardian ad litem's monthly billing. See if she has had any luck getting into contact with him.
I'll be filing for maintenance... I'll have to get a court order and all that fun stuff again, but I'll just mail the stuff to his work to get it to him. I'm tired of the games and if push comes to shove I'll try to get a court appointed lawyer. I feel like he's dragging this on to punish me, but I'm not allowing myself to be punished.
He was the one who wanted the divorce, why won't he just let me go??
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Monday, August 30, 2010
A day at the beach
Richard came over to my place yesterday and after he gave me the most awesome present of totally cleaning my bathroom for me we went to the beach...
We snapped pix with my cell phone and I posted them via Twitter... if you didn't know, I'm @jendie. Any surprise there? There shouldn't be.
We snapped pix with my cell phone and I posted them via Twitter... if you didn't know, I'm @jendie. Any surprise there? There shouldn't be.
Friday, August 27, 2010
Famous and from Mt Vernon, WA...
Is it famous, or infamous? Glenn Beck.. Jim Caviezel.
Are there others? I don't know.
Are there others? I don't know.
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Amazon.com
I just added amazon.com to my blog. I get my Kindle books for my G1 from there, so why not?
Life happens..
I met someone new. Someone I enjoyed spending time with.
My divorce seems to be going no where. I haven't heard from the GAL regarding her coming back.
Steve moved in with Sam the week I had the GAL home visit, that means he no longer lives in a studio apt, but he still doesn't have a place of his own. Nicolas still share the bedroom with his dad during the time he visits, but at least now Nic says that he has an air mattress to sleep on instead of sharing the bed with his dad. But still no separate room when at his dad's. I have custody, the kids share a room, but have their own beds. I am on the waiting list for a 3 bedroom apartment, I just don't know when I'll get into one.
This year Justin only spent 3 weeks with me during his summer vacation. I'm not sure when he'll be back up here, either Thanksgiving or Christmas.. I can only dream about both. Since he's having surgery sometime this winter, I know he won't be up here during that time.
Nicolas starts school in a couple of weeks.. Brandon in about a month. Yippee!! more daytime fun for mom.. unless I go back to school.
My divorce seems to be going no where. I haven't heard from the GAL regarding her coming back.
Steve moved in with Sam the week I had the GAL home visit, that means he no longer lives in a studio apt, but he still doesn't have a place of his own. Nicolas still share the bedroom with his dad during the time he visits, but at least now Nic says that he has an air mattress to sleep on instead of sharing the bed with his dad. But still no separate room when at his dad's. I have custody, the kids share a room, but have their own beds. I am on the waiting list for a 3 bedroom apartment, I just don't know when I'll get into one.
This year Justin only spent 3 weeks with me during his summer vacation. I'm not sure when he'll be back up here, either Thanksgiving or Christmas.. I can only dream about both. Since he's having surgery sometime this winter, I know he won't be up here during that time.
Nicolas starts school in a couple of weeks.. Brandon in about a month. Yippee!! more daytime fun for mom.. unless I go back to school.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Saturday, June 19, 2010
The joys of the internet
I found some Multiple Sclerosis related things on the internet and decided to put them in my blog. I did not make them, but I found them either amusing or informative. The "Wheelchair Kamikaze" things are fun. He has a great sense of humor and I love watching his newest episodes.
I wouldn't mind going out for bagels with him if I were ever in New York City.
I wouldn't mind going out for bagels with him if I were ever in New York City.
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Monday, April 19, 2010
19 April 2010
Evasiveness, suspect comments, things that just don't add up.
I'm already dealing with having been lied to, by a person who hides behind words.
Telling me that you love and miss me, but then don't want to talk to me...
Getting injured in a way that you can't help after you offered to,
I have enough stuff on my plate, I don't have time for this garbage.
I'm starting to think it's time to cut my losses and start fresh...
... yet again.
I am unhappy at the moment, but I don't need to let him have that much power over me.
It's time to start again, with a new or revised cast of characters.
Wendy
I'm already dealing with having been lied to, by a person who hides behind words.
Telling me that you love and miss me, but then don't want to talk to me...
Getting injured in a way that you can't help after you offered to,
I have enough stuff on my plate, I don't have time for this garbage.
I'm starting to think it's time to cut my losses and start fresh...
... yet again.
I am unhappy at the moment, but I don't need to let him have that much power over me.
It's time to start again, with a new or revised cast of characters.
Wendy
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Two Friends - Writings in Sand and Stone
TWO FRIENDS WERE WALKING
THROUGH THE DESERT.
DURING SOME POINT OF THE
JOURNEY, THEY HAD AN
ARGUMENT; AND ONE FRIEND
SLAPPED THE OTHER ONE
IN THE FACE
THE ONE WHO GOT SLAPPED
WAS HURT, BUT WITHOUT
SAYING ANYTHING,
WROTE IN THE SAND,
TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE..
THEY KEPT ON WALKING,
UNTIL THEY FOUND AN OASIS,
WHERE THEY DECIDED
TO TAKE A BATH.
THE ONE WHO HAD BEEN
SLAPPED GOT STUCK IN THE
MIRE AND STARTED DROWNING,
BUT THE FRIEND SAVED HIM.
AFTER HE RECOVERED FROM
THE NEAR DROWNING,
HE WROTE ON A STONE:
"TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
SAVED MY LIFE"
THE FRIEND WHO HAD SLAPPED
AND SAVED HIS BEST FRIEND
ASKED HIM, "AFTER I HURT YOU,
YOU WROTE IN THE SAND AND NOW,
YOU WRITE ON A STONE, WHY?"
THE FRIEND REPLIED
"WHEN SOMEONE HURTS US
WE SHOULD WRITE IT DOWN
IN SAND, WHERE WINDS OF
FORGIVENESS CAN ERASE IT AWAY.
BUT, WHEN SOMEONE DOES
SOMETHING GOOD FOR US,
WE MUST ENGRAVE IT IN STONE
WHERE NO WIND
CAN EVER ERASE IT"
LEARN TO WRITE
YOUR HURTS IN
THE SAND AND TO
CARVE YOUR
BENEFITS IN STONE.
THEY SAY IT TAKES A
MINUTE TO FIND A SPECIAL
PERSON,
AN HOUR TO
APPRECIATE THEM,
A DAY
TO LOVE THEM,
BUT THEN,
AN ENTIRE LIFE
TO FORGET THEM.
SEND THIS TO
THE PEOPLE YOU'LL NEVER
FORGET.
I JUST DID.
TAKE THE TIME TO LIVE!
DO NOT VALUE THE THINGS
YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE, BUT VALUE
WHO YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE!
"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is
fighting some kind of battle."
THROUGH THE DESERT.
DURING SOME POINT OF THE
JOURNEY, THEY HAD AN
ARGUMENT; AND ONE FRIEND
SLAPPED THE OTHER ONE
IN THE FACE
THE ONE WHO GOT SLAPPED
WAS HURT, BUT WITHOUT
SAYING ANYTHING,
WROTE IN THE SAND,
TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE..
THEY KEPT ON WALKING,
UNTIL THEY FOUND AN OASIS,
WHERE THEY DECIDED
TO TAKE A BATH.
THE ONE WHO HAD BEEN
SLAPPED GOT STUCK IN THE
MIRE AND STARTED DROWNING,
BUT THE FRIEND SAVED HIM.
AFTER HE RECOVERED FROM
THE NEAR DROWNING,
HE WROTE ON A STONE:
"TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
SAVED MY LIFE"
THE FRIEND WHO HAD SLAPPED
AND SAVED HIS BEST FRIEND
ASKED HIM, "AFTER I HURT YOU,
YOU WROTE IN THE SAND AND NOW,
YOU WRITE ON A STONE, WHY?"
THE FRIEND REPLIED
"WHEN SOMEONE HURTS US
WE SHOULD WRITE IT DOWN
IN SAND, WHERE WINDS OF
FORGIVENESS CAN ERASE IT AWAY.
BUT, WHEN SOMEONE DOES
SOMETHING GOOD FOR US,
WE MUST ENGRAVE IT IN STONE
WHERE NO WIND
CAN EVER ERASE IT"
LEARN TO WRITE
YOUR HURTS IN
THE SAND AND TO
CARVE YOUR
BENEFITS IN STONE.
THEY SAY IT TAKES A
MINUTE TO FIND A SPECIAL
PERSON,
AN HOUR TO
APPRECIATE THEM,
A DAY
TO LOVE THEM,
BUT THEN,
AN ENTIRE LIFE
TO FORGET THEM.
SEND THIS TO
THE PEOPLE YOU'LL NEVER
FORGET.
I JUST DID.
TAKE THE TIME TO LIVE!
DO NOT VALUE THE THINGS
YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE, BUT VALUE
WHO YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE!
"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is
fighting some kind of battle."
Rules in a relationship and broken rules.
The person I'd been seeing since February cheated on me on the day I saw the lawyer about my divorce stuff. I found out about it the next day after he posed a supposedly hypothetical question. We had talked about sleeping with other people, but only if the other was around when it happened. He made up these rules and didn't abide by them.
I'm not happy... feeling like trust has been broken.
Wendy
Finally have a court date...
This isn't a final court date that results in dissolving the marriage, but it is to get a judge to approve a temporary parenting plan. The date is set for May 3rd at 9:30 am. I had sent the other party copies of the legal paperwork I'd filed - amended parenting plan, statement for my parenting plan, and notice of court date. That should have arrived at his place yesterday, whether he has it I don't know, but I'll just sit back and wait to see.
For now I'll just keep living my life the way I have been, seeing Nicolas from Friday after he gets out of school until the following Monday morning when he leaves for school. Which reminds me that I need to get Nic's medicaid coupon in his backpack so he'll have it on Thursday for his dental cleaning appointment.
It has taken me this long because I have been waiting to talk to legal counsel first, which I did the day before I filed. Saw the lawyer on the 14th, filed and mailed the paperwork to Steve on the 15th.
The 90 day period that's required to get a divorce in the state of WA ends on May 10th. If Steve doesn't fit at the hearing regarding the parenting plan, I'll see how soon we can get a hearing for the divorce.
The light at the end of the tunnel is getting brighter, but that doesn't mean a landslide won't happen before I get there.
For now I'll just keep living my life the way I have been, seeing Nicolas from Friday after he gets out of school until the following Monday morning when he leaves for school. Which reminds me that I need to get Nic's medicaid coupon in his backpack so he'll have it on Thursday for his dental cleaning appointment.
It has taken me this long because I have been waiting to talk to legal counsel first, which I did the day before I filed. Saw the lawyer on the 14th, filed and mailed the paperwork to Steve on the 15th.
The 90 day period that's required to get a divorce in the state of WA ends on May 10th. If Steve doesn't fit at the hearing regarding the parenting plan, I'll see how soon we can get a hearing for the divorce.
The light at the end of the tunnel is getting brighter, but that doesn't mean a landslide won't happen before I get there.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Grrrrrrr... I need a lawyer
The father of my youngest son is being such a jerk. He wants to drag this out in court, I can just feel it in my bones. He's doing things he shouldn't.. like NOT claiming the pick-up truck that was bought during the marriage as a marital asset. He wants everything that's in his name only to go to him.. the vehicles are in HIS name because he didn't put me on the registration or title of either vehicle though we were married when they were bought.
He wants me to have to pay for all the bills that were in my name only.. like PSE and Comcast, though they were incurred during the marriage.. before he moved out. I'm fine with being responsible for the stuff that I've incurred after he left, but why the hell should I have to take up his slack????? HE'S the one who wanted to be in charge of paying the bills... he took the checkbook away from me back when we still lived in out first apartment in Anacortes. He got pissed because he had a credit card bill that I didn't pay... but that was because there wasn't enough money in the account to cover that payment.
He only tolerated my family because they paid for things for me or the kids... that way he didn't have to. But when Kimmi died and we moved back to WA, he became more of a jerk to me.
Now my mom has been diagnosed with MS and has stopped working. Things had gotten so bad for her that she couldn't work and was forced to retire early.
I'm suck in this kind of warped limbo... I need to find a lawyer. Someone who knows family law well enough to stick it to the jerk who promised to love, honor, and cherish me in sickness and in health ... until things got tough. He went into this marriage knowing I had MS, knowing I already had two kids... this is just bullshit.
Wendy
He wants me to have to pay for all the bills that were in my name only.. like PSE and Comcast, though they were incurred during the marriage.. before he moved out. I'm fine with being responsible for the stuff that I've incurred after he left, but why the hell should I have to take up his slack????? HE'S the one who wanted to be in charge of paying the bills... he took the checkbook away from me back when we still lived in out first apartment in Anacortes. He got pissed because he had a credit card bill that I didn't pay... but that was because there wasn't enough money in the account to cover that payment.
He only tolerated my family because they paid for things for me or the kids... that way he didn't have to. But when Kimmi died and we moved back to WA, he became more of a jerk to me.
Now my mom has been diagnosed with MS and has stopped working. Things had gotten so bad for her that she couldn't work and was forced to retire early.
I'm suck in this kind of warped limbo... I need to find a lawyer. Someone who knows family law well enough to stick it to the jerk who promised to love, honor, and cherish me in sickness and in health ... until things got tough. He went into this marriage knowing I had MS, knowing I already had two kids... this is just bullshit.
Wendy
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